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| THE RECOVERY SUTRAS
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| Part Four: Relationship, food for the Body of Joy
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THE GOAL OF GOALS
The aim of Yoga, and in fact, the essence of
life, is expressed by the Sanskrit word 'paramananda',
or, 'more sustained joy'. For whatever we see as the
goal of existence, it is only that which we
associate with, what we believe will lead to 'paramananda'.
Money, fame, family, helping others, union with God,
enlightenment, nirvana, nothingness or a stable
mind: each is valued only inasmuch as they are
equated with 'the increased feeling of lasting joy'.
In the end, whatever our personal situation or
philosophical orientation, 'paramananda' is what all
goals aspire to.
According to Yoga's holistic anatomy, the Five
Mayas, (download the entire series at
www.yogitimes.com), the dimension which manifests
this potential for more sustained joy is the
ananda-maya, or emotional body. Because this core
level is the most subtle, it permeates and affects
all the others. Those who are more joyful tend to
stay healthier, heal quicker, learn better, and
maintain clearer values. Thus, the traditional
German saying, "The happiest child wins the race."
TEMPERATURE RISING
In addiction studies, the ananda-maya is
described (in simplest terms) as a kind of emotional
thermostat, ranging from the darkest depression on
one end to the deepest joy on the other. We each
develop a pre-set emotional disposition, an ambient
emotional tone somewhere along the scale. This
emotional temperature is somewhat influenced by
genetics and pre-natal conditions, but it is shaped,
primarily, by life-experience, specifically our
earliest, deepest most formative relationships.
Though the flow of daily experiences will register
as being relatively more joyful or depressing
(winning the the lottery/getting fired), each
individual starts from, and returns to their regular
set point on the scale.
The condition of our ananda-maya controls the way we
feel about ourselves, other people, fate, God and
things in general. It is the unspoken, deeply felt
sense of 'how we are' and 'how life is'. Someone
who's emotional thermostat is set further to the
negative side of the scale would be more likely to
find fault with, and maintain resentments towards,
themselves, others, and situations in general. On
larger issues, they would tend to worship a more
authoritative, punishing God, or struggle with the
notion of a higher power entirely, asking, "How
could any God let all the horrible things happen in
the world". Their bumper sticker would announce that
'Life is hard, then you die.', and they would
believe it.
And individual with an emotional pre-set closer to
the joyful end of the scale would see the positive
side of things and tend to be more hopeful and
forgiving, Such an person would more easily embrace
the vision of a gentle, loving God, or life-force
supporting the universe. Their bumper stickers would
encourage us all to 'visualize world peace',
'impeach Bush', or something equally upbeat and
optimistic.
NOT ENOUGH LOVE IN THE WORD
In this model, the addict, and those most likely to
develop full-blown addictions, have an emotional
pre-set closer to the negative end of the scale.
Thus, addiction is not based on simple genetics or a
single traumatic experience. According to both Yoga
and accepted addiction theory, the root of the
problem lies in the addict's negative emotional
pre-disposition, their ananda maya deficiency. It is
their fundamental shortage of joy, and the resultant
tendency toward fear, resentment, sadness and drama,
which makes the alcoholic drink, the addict use, and
the overeater overeat.
In subsequent articles, we will outline Yoga's many
tools for helping to recover from addiction's
effects on the first four mayas. We'll learn how
Asana helps to heal the physical (mano-maya)
discomfort. We'll see how pranayama, sound, and the
other breath-centered technologies can improve the
addict's compromised physiology, their prana-maya,.
For the mano and vijnana mayas, Yoga offers
meditation techniques which help stabilize the mind
and clarify values.
All these areas are relatively easy to treat,
compared to the ananda-maya level, the emotional
core, responsible for our deepest sense of
self-worth, and the ability to give and receive
love. For this level, according to Yoga, their are
no easy tools to facilitate change.
THE MISSING LINK
Initially, this emotional body was shaped (for
better or worse) by relationships. Throughout life,
it is still relationships which provide our greatest
joys and deepest sorrows. Therefore, the one
essential component in healing the ananda maya is-
relationship itself. The only way to move the
emotional set point, and change our sense of 'how
things are' is through continuous, positive,
long-term relationships which nourish and strengthen
the core self.
It is not surprising, then, that addiction creates
profound suffering, in twelve step lingo, 'the
wreckage of our past' in the area of relationships.
Inevitably, the addict becomes more and more
isolated from friends, family, co-workers, and
society in general.
This need for healthy, healing relationships also
explains why the first of Yoga's eight limbs (ashtanga)
is yamas, or relationship, and Patanjali offers
several sutras to illuminate the guidelines for
joyous relationships. (We'll examine these in future
articles) In addition, the traditional Yoga model
prescribed one teacher for each student who could
provide guidance and support in the context of a
loving student-mentor relationship.
Though few modern Yogis enjoy an in-depth
relationship with a teacher, it is a primary
component of most healing modalities (the
therapist/client dynamic is the foundation of
Western psychology) , and is a fundamental
requirement for transforming the ananda-maya.
Without this intense personal relationship
(anonymous group stretch classes just don't get it),
Yoga, for all its powerful tools and best
intentions, can only effect a relatively superficial
change, particularly in those with addictive
tendencies.
In my own case, for fifteen years, the patterns
underlying my addiction: perfectionism,
self-destructiveness (always in the name of self
improvement), and competitiveness were actually
deepened by posture-centered group Yoga classes,
where I was regarded less as a person, and more as
an anatomical construct, a pose- making machine.
THE FUTURE OF YOGA
As awareness grows, however, more Yoga teachers
are being trained to offer individualized,
relationship- based instruction. Meanwhile, twelve
step programs, with their emphasis on sponsorship
and intimate sharing at regular group meetings
continue to offer the powerful, long-term fellowship
(satsanga) needed to change the emotional thermostat
and heal the ananda-maya of its members.
Interestingly, even the slightest positive movement
in this underlying emotional tone generates an
experience so profound it is often described as a
spiritual awakening ( a term heard frequently at 12
step meetings). Often, there arises a spontaneous
shift in perception, one which transforms the
individual's relationships with everyone and
everything. This deeply emotional, life-changing
experience is required for high quality, long-term
sobriety. It is, undoubtedly, what the Yoga master,
TKV Desikachar, was referring to when he said, "The
true test of whether Yoga is working is our
relationships get better.
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