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| THE RECOVERY SUTRAS
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| Part Six: Envisioning a Lovable
Future |
INSPIRED BEGINNINGS
In the 1930's, two reformed drunks, Bill Wilson and
Dr. Bob Smith spearheaded a grass-roots movement, which
would permanently alter the accepted understanding of
alcoholism/addiction. Alcoholics Anonymous elevated
the perception of addiction as a moral deficiency, a
weakness of character, to an actual medical disease,
a pathology similar to tuberculosis or diabetes.
The recovery Sutras (the articles and upcoming book),
attempts to, once again, redefine addiction, lifting
it from the disease model to a unique matrix of conditions
best treated through a wellness-centered approach, using
a holistic healing art, namely Yoga.
The current Western medical model is a disease-based
paradigm. Its central strategy is to diminish, eliminate,
or mask diseases and their symptoms (largely, with surgery
and drugs). Yoga, a wellness-based system less concerned
with treating disease, focuses on helping individuals
realize their goals and improve the quality of their
daily life. One traditional definition of Yoga is, 'the
ability to do something tomorrow that we can not do
today'.
TO EACH THEIR OWN
In Yoga, there are as many goals as there are practitioners.
A Hindu's highest goal would be union with God. For
someone with arthritis, running a marathon may bring
them the greatest joy. An addict/alcoholic could desire
to stay sober one day at a time, while his codependent
wife's aim might be to focus on something other than
her husband's addiction. For everyone, however, it is
important to be clear about what we value, what we desire.
One of Yoga's essential tools for establishing goals,
clarifying values, and healing the individual is visualization,
or 'bhavana'.
According to Sutra 1:20, remembering and visualizing
our goals 'smriti samadhi', creates abundant faith and
confidence or 'sraddha'. The more vividly and consistently
we see ourselves attaining our aims, the more we generate
the energy to overcome obstacles and persevere.
It is unlikely that we will ever achieve something we
cannot imagine ourselves attaining. Conversely, everything
in the world (other than nature) that does exist, each
building, road, movie or book, started out as somebody's
visualization.
'THE SECRET' OF YOGA
In my own 15 years of coaching individuals with Yoga,
I am constantly amazed at how visualization transforms
people's lives. This power is vastly magnified when
the bhavana is positive, concrete, and specific. Let's
explore these three qualities in depth.
Positive- it is important to focus on what we do, not
what we don't want. Knowing what we want to create,
implement, or increase, is far more vivid, inspiring
and motivating than knowing what we wish to stop, remove,
or reduce. Telling a restaurant server what not to bring
us (no steak, no pizza, and definitely no dessert) doesn't
help them to know what to do to fill our hunger.
Addicts, and their counterparts, co-dependents, often
experience great difficulty expressing their goals and
needs in positive terms. Their negative disposition
causes the addict/codpendent to focus on what they don't
like, don't want and what doesn't work for them. This
pattern is self-generating and brings out negative feelings
in those they are in relationship with. Inevitably,
life gets worse.
Concrete- the opposite of abstract. Today, many are
able to describe their aims in airy, abstract terms
(my goals are to be more 'present, 'in the moment' or
have 'more energy'. Yet, they are clueless as to the
events, behaviors, and actions, which their words describe.
For those in recovery, (and other veterans of too many
workshops, self-help books and therapies) this chronic
abstractness is an obstacle to long-term sobriety and
lasting joy. I have observed many recovering addicts
(and Yoga teachers) speak, for years, about being 'grounded,
centered, balanced, and whole', without taking to the
next level of observable conditions and behaviors.
As popular as these abstractions are, (best-selling
books abound with the 'the stillness of the nowness')
they are disembodied mental concepts, disconnected from
everyday experience and relationship. Though uplifting
to read and parrot in conversation, these abstractions
are undigested notions masquerading as achievable aims.
Bottom line, it is impossible to achieve a concept.
Specific- Finally, the more specific and precise our
visualizations, the more they will evoke the powerful
emotions which fuel our actions. Knowing we want to
be 'serene, present, and free' has none of the excitement,
the juice of visualizing ourselves 'doing an hour of
Yoga in the morning sun in Chennai, sipping a latte
at a cafe in Florence, or running from a lion on a safari
in Kenya'.
More practically, positive, concrete, and specific goals
suggest strategies, illuminate choices, and allow us
to chart our progress (or lack thereof) on the path.
(How will you know when you're halfway 'centered'?)
BORN TO BE HAPPY
Actually, visualization is an inherent ability of every
human being. Ask any healthy eight-year-old child what
they would like to be when they grow up. Their answer
will be positive, concrete, specific, and highly enthused.
Just as Yoga asana helps us reclaim our original stamina
and flexibility, with guidance and practice, we can
rekindle our ability to visualize a lovable future.
Choosing, focusing, and sustaining attention a specific
object 'citta vritti nirodha' is the very definition
of Yoga. (YS 1:2)
Whether it comes naturally or as the result of practice,
one thing is true. The more positively, concretely and
specifically we see the conditions which we desire,
(earning 250k per year writing children's books, having
six friends to laugh with 2 nights each week, or marrying
a smiling dark-haired partner who says, "I feel blessed
to have met you" everyday), the closer we are to actually
having them in our lives. (YS 1:21)
Increasingly, visualization is even being used in Western
Medicine. (Many doctors encourage patients to envision
successful surgeries.) Whatever the healing modality,
visualization is an essential tool for maintaining long-term
vitality and joy. And any addiction is less likely to
take root in a life, which looks exactly like the one
we envisioned for ourselves. This simple, powerful technique
can be an important tool for the addict in recovery
or for anyone looking for a happy tomorrow. I can hardly
wait
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